You're Good Enough Now

This weekend, we were playing with our little baby girl. We tickled her tummy and she would laugh and was full of joy, full of content and just happy. It occurred to me that she doesn’t understand hate, especially self hate. She doesn’t understand restrictions or what is or isn’t taboo. Clothes, no clothes, it’s all good. She doesn’t understand heart ache other than the brief moments when she’s waiting on us to make her a bottle of milk. She just know that she’s loved and happy and is happy with who she is and is with at this moment. In a few years, unfortunately this situation may or may not change.

For those who do not know, she was born with a birth defect which causes her lymphatic system to build up fluid in her neck and not drain it back into the body, as normal people do. This fluid creates a series of large and small cysts creating large tumors around her neck which not only is a physical abnormality but a medical problem as it can wreak havoc upon her airway and her esophagus. She is on a medication right now that have kept her condition in check, but have created loose skin looking like a double chin. The world is cruel and over time, she’s going to learn what society believes is what’s considered normal and what is not. She will learn that she is different and it is then that her perceptions of herself and who she is may change. I pray to the Lord Almighty this day does not come to pass. 

What is the point in this post? Well, while she has a physical condition, we all have our own insecurities… We all have feelings of inadequacies. Skinny women are told by society that they are too skinny and they should be curvier…. Curvy women are told they are thick and need to be skinny. Plus sized people are told that they are just obese and need to get down to a certain weight just to fit within a certain norm. Guys are told that they need to have 6 packs or else they fall short of what is expected. What this does is make the 99.9% of the worlds population vie for that perfect body that may or may not be ever attainable. But in doing so, we get discouraged… We feel that we aren’t good enough… We don’t have what normal people should have because if we did, we would be normal. Women put off getting photos taken because they are trying to lose that last 10 pounds. They lose 5 pounds, run into a holiday, and end up back to square one, all the time feeling discouraged, unattractive and out of place.

Society has twisted us… perverted us… we’ve been lied to. This is no short than in World War 2 when europe was indoctrinated that anyone not blonde hair and blue eyes were lesser of a people and should be dealt with accordingly. This is the danger in falling into this trap that we must have this perfect body to be happy… to be healthy… to be content… We live 1 life here on earth… We cannot change our past and our genetics no matter how much we would like to. Some can get a candy bar and lose 2 pounds while another can gaze upon that same candy bar and gain 10. We are all different. We are all God’s children and unique and we should all celebrate that! Are you a curvy woman? Celebrate and love who you are! Are you skinny? Thick? Plus sized? Celebrate it… Love yourself. Love who you are and what God has blessed you with and endowed you with. Learn to be like the child you were BEFORE you learned what society claims is the norm and what we should and shouldn’t be like. Learn to be full of joy, content and happy with life and most of all, you. Then, we can strive to be fully happy with our bodies, and maybe, through happiness and content, we will then get everything out of life you desire and deserve! Like our daughter is now, she is perfect right now! She is a blessing right now! And i hope when she gets older, she will not forget these simple truths and learn to love who she is and those who love her.